Position #69

There was a time when I didn’t like position number 69. When I was on the bottom, it was hard to control the depth of oral penetration, and sometimes it just felt heavy under their bodyweight. When I was on the top, it was hard for me to enjoy sitting on someone’s face while sucking on their penis – too much was going on. However, I changed my mind at some point because, if you think about it, good sex is when all parties involved are staying busy. That’s exactly what this position is about. 

Let me first address the hygiene which is a big component of successs. Some women don’t feel comfortable sitting with their pussy on someone’s face, but to make you feel more confident and to make sure his penis and balls in your face don’t smell like a male dressing room in the gym, make sure to take a shower beforehand. Taking things in your mouth is so much better when all parties involved are clean and fresh. Some guys do like the actual pussy smell or even period messy scents; it’s up to you how to feel about it. It’s gross on one hand, and it’s a big turn-on for many on the other hand. I had one boyfriend who once suggested wearing a gas mask to breathe pussy. So even if it feels gross for you, for the opposite gender, it might be exactly what gets them going. 

If it gets uncomfortable in any way, the first thing to do is switch who is on the top and who is on the bottom. Sometimes it’s just a heavy dude laying on you and resting at the same time—no bueno if you have a significant weight difference. Use pillows to support your neck and adjust angles if needed. 

Now, what about the different heights? 
Adjust for height. If you guys have different heights and it’s sometimes hard to kiss because of that, no need to give up on 69 ing . it’s time to try the sideways 69 position. It’s when both partners lie on their sides, with the taller partner forming a C-shape. It’s perfect because here weight doesn’t matter either. If one partner is larger, they can take the bottom position for added comfort. 

For those on the bottom, using a pillow under your hips can help adjust the angle, making it easier for your partner to lick, suck, fuck, etc., in this position. And again, things like different heights are nothing to be concerned about as long as you know what to do and what to get to make it comfy. Here is where the sex pillows come in. There are also specialized positioning pillows, such as the Dame Pillow or Liberator that can be very handy not only for position 69 but for everyday bedroom acrobatics and elevated comfort. 

Maintain a lighthearted attitude; awkward moments can happen, so embrace them with humor. Communication is key—ask your partner what feels good and adjust accordingly.

Consider incorporating a vibrator for combined stimulation, and explore wearable options like eggs or wearable vibrators on your clit or inside of your vagina while your partner is pleasuring your pussy with their tongue. I would say any sex toy that is designed to be worn during sex can be a great addition to your hot 69 experience.  Additionally, using a cock ring can help maintain an erection and prolong pleasure during intercourse if you want to keep the fun going. 

Throw a butt plug into the mix. Whoever is into butt stuff, having your ass filled while your partner is pleasuring you orally is never a bad idea. It’s never too many orgasms. One or both partners can wear a butt plug; this way, for guys, it will provide prostate stimulation, and for people with vaginas, it can be a good way to experience multiple orgasms.

And again, about making noise: whether it’s moaning or dirty talk—let your mouth relax while driving your partner even crazier with your words. Hands can also assist when your mouth needs a break but letting your partner know that you are into that, how horny you  are for him  and you can’t stop worshipping his cock, is always greatly appreciated. The most skillful partners are the ones who are enthusiastic about giving pleasure.