Reasons to Try Pegging

Pegging, where a woman uses a strap-on to penetrate her partner anally, might not sound right for many, but when it comes to sex, you never know until you try. First of all, a lot of men after 35-40 years old do want to explore their butt or to actually get fucked by their partner, but they are afraid to say it out loud because society is still pretty twisted with its taboos. Some guys keep it a secret and even play with their butts when no one is watching, even though they are straight. There is an erogenous zone inside the male butt, and no matter what assumptions you have, it’s totally reasonable that they want to experience it or that it becomes an essential part of their sex life once they have their first prostate orgasm, which is super intense and can’t be compared to regular ejaculation. 

Back in the days, I thought that this was something I wouldn’t do at all, then I thought maybe just to try. Eventually, when I had a partner I really loved, he shared with me that he was playing with his butt for the last 10 years while he was in an unhappy marriage, and she still has no idea that this was the biggest thing for him when it comes to sex. He shared with me because he knew that I wouldn’t judge. We didn’t execute it right away, though. When we got really close, one day he just brought me to the adult store on the way home and told me we were buying a strap-on and today we would imagine I don’t have a pussy but I have a dick, even though he liked doing my pussy all day long too. 

I didn’t have much time to think because we had already pulled over at the adult store parking lot, and I just hoped that I didn’t know the salespeople there because of the nature of my job. Of course, I was the one choosing the toy; I only asked how deep we wanted to go, and he said: “All the motherfucking way in”—so we purchased a Doc Johnson kit with three attachments; two of them were black 9 and 11-inch dildos that he took into his ass like a champ. And I kept wondering how someone could live together for 10 years and never even bring it up. For me, it was an interesting experience, even though we forgot about my pussy that night and I became a proud penis owner, black from the waist down.

What did I like about it?  
First of all, pegging can change up the dynamics in a relationship, allowing for exploration of different roles and power dynamics. It was interesting to see and feel how men see and experience sex—how they move and how one has to feel the partner to reach what they need to reach and not overdo it. You have to literally focus on the hole you are in to make it right, when you are receiving you can literally just relax and enjoy, I would have used a dick if I had one, but definitely enjoying being a woman more. It was beneficial for me because I realized the complicity of sex when it comes to man being an active penetrating partner but to be honest with you, it was still less work than being on top. So I kind of first thought I wouldn’t demand f*ck me more that I was being fucked but then I realized that most common positions are not that much of a hard work, so I guess it really depends on a physical health too. This was my outtake on practical side of things, on the mental side of things, I was really happy to gain my power in sex back, because he was the one initiating everything but at the moment you have a black dick on vac u lock harness in his ass, you are not as much of a loving craving pussy anymore, so this power dynamic was really needed at that moment and it had a great impact on our relationship. And I can imagine why for me it’s such a cherry on the cake because you can’t act the same in sex as in your social roles, that’s the point, you have to express yourself though sex.  It’s a well-known fact that it can be particularly appealing for men who are typically dominant in other aspects of life. If you are always in charge at work, you do want to submit in bed, and that’s okay.

Apart from psychological benefits, the anus and rectum have sensitive nerve endings that can be highly pleasurable when stimulated. The prostate orgasm can open a whole new dimension of pleasure for penis owners and it’s a way more intense that regular ejaculation.  How he moaned that night and how much he came didn’t happen that often. It was a challenge for me at first because I knew how to do it with my mouth and with my hands, but I had no idea how to fuck him to an orgasm, usually, it was the opposite. But when figured it out, the orgasm from prostate stimulation turned out to be so much more pleasurable and exciting for him. And you will figure it out too, just listen to their reaction and body responses. Don’t perform any moves you wouldn’t have wanted to experience on your asshole unless he asks.

And again, I wasn’t a fan of the idea when I was imagining it before it actually happened. But after it did happen, I reconsidered how I felt about it. I think that first night I fucked him in the ass, we became closer than ever mentally and physically because to let someone fuck you in the ass with a huge black dildo, you really need to trust this person and not be afraid of being vulnerable.

And plus its just a sexy experience by the nature of It. Its still sex, just a different kind of sex, doesn’t mean less exciting. It’s sort of kinky and it can open a door to other kinky experiences. If this is what you are into, maybe it makes sense to also add a blindfold or restraints.

I am all about trying different sexual experiences and practices at least once, otherwise, how in hell you would understand whether it works for you or not? If you’ve never tried it, pegging can bring a fresh dimension to your sex life. I would say we eventually broke the strap-on because I loved the role and response to the combination of me with a dick. I am not a person who does it with every partner, it’s very rare occasions and there is usually a good reason for that, however, its just me, if you wanna do it every single day-be my guest. If everyone is on board, including your partner’s ass, there is nothing to be ashamed of.

And if you think about it – another practical thing to take into consideration- you are getting older and your prostate doesn’t get younger either. One day you can experience anal stimulation from a doctor that doesn’t care about your body responses, and he is just massaging this thing to increase your blood flow and deal with prostatitis. —regular prostate orgasms, including those achieved through pegging, can reduce the risk of prostate cancer. Guys who think that they are too straight to do that often have problems with prostatitis once they get older.

To sum up, have fun with it, stock up on anal lube and comfy strap on and see where it takes you!